What She thinks of Him!

Women this and women that. Everywhere there are sagas of women in distress. Enough of all that, I was tired of seeing and reading so much ill about women that it made me write this article. I wanted to give a piece of my mind to all those men who think women are dirt. I started thinking about how women were perceived by men from time immemorial. Never was a women asked how they perceived a man. Now I get it why.

                                    

“We are nothing for you. We are not important”. “We should stick to reproducing and making food”. “We have no choice but to depend on you”. That’s what you men think about women. Now here is what women think about you men.

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·        You have taken birth from a woman’s body. So if you think we are nothing but “per ki jooti” (footwear) then your birth has taken place from that “jooti” (footwear) itself. Now where would you place yourself?

·        You think we need to cover our bodies with veils of all sorts. Why is that? Just because your kinds can’t keep their lust in control? Now who is weaker?

·        We are not allowed to take important decisions. You say: “Don’t use your brains”. Yes, because if we did you people would face some tough competition.Therefore, you make us feel like we are dumb chicks.

·        After a bad breakup why don’t you people go and cry in front of your dads? Why do you need a mother to wipe your tears? The same mother who was silenced when she tried to talk between the conversations you and your dad had the other day.

·        You think that the world’s best chefs are men. Go and ask them their inspiration. There would be no mention of a dad or a grand dad in there.

·        Women are dependent on us financially. Really? We have proved that wrong many years ago.

·        Education was just for men in olden days. Now we can see why that was so. The increasing number of girls scoring more than boys totally proves that even in academics we are better than you people.

·        Ever thought why always a man proposes a woman for marriage?  That too going on his knees. That’s because my friends we don’t need men to handle our things or families. It’s you who needs us to help and manage your things and families. Because guess what you people can’t even put your things on place. Now who is dependent?

·        And guess what? You need US, to get an offspring. If men are the superior sex, go get sons from a man’s body. 

·        Women are nothing but liabilities. Then why do men worship goddesses? So you are literally bowing your head in front of that person whom you thought was a “per ki jooti” (footwear).Great!

Even after reading everything I just mentioned you feel like “Nah, that’s rubbish”. Then let me tell you, you are just in denial. The next time you try to disrespect a women, you would sink even lower than us, then you already are. 

Resolutions Triumphed

With the commencement of 2014, children, youngsters and the elderly all are taking on new resolutions. Resolution is defined as a firm decision to do or not to do something. I have had made a number of resolutions at the start of every New Year and like most of the people have witnessed the short lived life of it. So I thought, does the word itself have a jinx attached to it? Because whenever I say I have made a resolution, it never actually gets to live a long life. I’m sure most of you have experienced the same fate of resolutions. There are so many new things that I would like to add to my list of good habits and so many things that I want to chuck out from my black list of habits. So what to do if resolutions act so stubbornly on not getting happened the way I want them to.

So this time I tricked my mind not telling it that I have made a resolution but actually started doing it daily. This did not begin at the 1^st of January this year but at the last month of 2013. I started doing a thing which I wanted to do on regular basis.  It was not easy to continue with it each day, some days I just felt lazy doing it, and some days the Satan led me astray from my path. Everything seemed tempting enough to not let me pursue, that which I had taken on indirectly as my “resolution”. I even skipped days not doing them. But one day I feared losing a good habit if I gave way to my laziness and many other temptations. So I started doing them again and then every day. And believe me I still do feel lazy about not doing it but now when I think about skipping it, I start to feel guilty. That guilt makes me feel, that something has control over me instead of me having control over it. This was not a good feeling for me. What felt good, really good was the satisfaction of having controlled something, of not letting something slip out of my control. The happiness to successfully complete the resolution I had taken.

Days passed and finally with much gusto the world embraced the New Year. When people around the world were making resolutions, thinking how long would it last? I was smiling to myself, patting my back because I had a resolution which I know would certainly not live a short life. I overcame all the hurdles it threw at me, all the challenges it gave me. My new year started off with not “a resolution” but I would now say proudly with “a new habit”.

I learnt one thing from my experiment is that: Your mind should not have control over you but you should have control over it.

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P.S: Happy New Year Guys 

Tangle Resolved

        You are in a relation with the person you love the most. Things are good and rosy in the beginning but are you finding hard to be in the relation now? Has your relation turned sour with time? Do you think the fire in your relation has extinguished? Then you need to focus on small things. The below listed are some of the small errors committed by many people which mess up their relations.Don't let your relation die on these simple errs instead work on them and bring back the blossom in your dying relation.

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Expectations:

     Most people in a relation do expect a lot of things from their partner. When those expectations do not get fulfilled people start to feel they are with the wrong person. This messes up most of the relations. You should expect reasonable things from your partner and not unreasonable ones. Give your partner some space of his own. Let your partner know what you need only then can the person start to fulfill your expectations. And even after telling, this does not happen don’t consider your partner unfit. Give it some time, its new for that person also. Expect as minimal as you can, you will realize you are happier that way.

Space:

    Some people become stalker when they get into a relation. Following every move your partner makes, where that person goes and whom he meets, who calls him and whom he calls are all classic features of a stalker partner. Badgering your partner for every detail and calling him at all times can get you under the person’s nerves. So stop the stalker within yourself and give your partner some space. Let him tell you what’s going on. Some times it’s better to wait for your partner to tell stuff to you, instead of you asking all the time.

Trust:

    Keep trust on your partner. I know it sounds cliché but trust is one of the main factors of a healthy relation. Keep telling your partner that you trust him. Especially when you know he is lying. This will make him feel guilty within and eventually would bring himself to tell u the truth. (Trust me, this technique works). It will also prevent him from telling any lies to you in future. You should also believe your partner when he tells you certain things, questioning always is not a right thing to do. This will make your partner also understand that you do believe and trust him, which will definitely bring a smile to his face.

Listening:

    Be a better listener, than a better talker. I do feel that most relations get tangled up due to the lack of listening abilities. Listen to your partner when he or she speaks something important, let him finish than express your opinions. Nobody likes to get interrupted, so why to do that. Listen to any explanations given by your partner in case he has done a thing which has disappointed you. There will be a reason behind that action. Hear it out first and then make a decision.

Discuss:

    Discussion is a main factor of any relation. Don’t do a thing or make a decision and then discuss with your partner. Instead do the opposite. Discuss all the matters concerning you with your partner. What he thinks about it, is also important. Not discussing things with your partner will make him feel underestimated and hence this will start the problems.

Let Go and Say Sorry:

    You fought with your beloved on a small thing and you both are upset and angry about it. “I will not say sorry” this is what you tell yourself. There is a possibility that your partner is also thinking the same. What will happen if you both let your egos come in between, whenever you fight? You won’t be happy for a long time. Letting go and saying sorry is one of the things you should never forget when in a relation. A simple sorry won’t make you small it will make miracles happen. So next time you fight with your partner take a minute to yourself and then tell him “It’s ok, sh*t happens”.

I Love You! :

    Do tell your partner how much you love him. Never think one time is enough. To know at regular times that your partner loves you is the most heartwarming feeling. Most people don’t do this once their relation has reached a certain level. This is the reason that spark in the relation disappears. Show your love not only through words but by actions also.

        Relations are something which doesn’t happen every day and when they do, we should preserve them for times to come. Don’t let go of that special someone who has entered in your life just because of a few errors made here there. Relations that once break can never be mended. So why let it break ?

"The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what it was, nor forward to what it might be, but living in the present and accepting it as it is now".
Anne Morrow Lindbergh 

The Little Magician

In a blink of an eye a zillion things change. Change a word that has the power to turn things in a way they never were. A lot of things cross our minds when we hear this dynamic word. There are so many reactions to a change. It has such power that it can gather an attention of millions at once but also has the ability to conceal the paths from which it creeps into. It has a magical power which shows its magic as soon as it puts its step forth. This little magician is very clever, it has its hawk eyes set on all things and the second it gets an opportunity, it creeps in and shows its magic.

                The idiosyncrasy of this little magician can be seen as having no physical tangible appearance. Its display changes every minute, every second. It stares us with its huge eyes but our poor naked eyes can’t see it.

                The growth and life cycle of change is just like that of Homo sapiens. Initially it has a tiny identification or existence somewhere. Slowly it develops but still hard to notice; its growth is such that though some people recognise it they can hardly say for sure whether it’s ‘the change’. This is the reason, this little magician gets the ground to grow more & more and like a malady it spreads to wherever it possibly can. And the day comes when its existence hits people hard on their faces. I wonder if that’s the reason most of the people on earth have an aversion towards change.

Yes, we don’t like change and wish it never interfered with the way of things. Most of us don’t like change, (at least with the good things). But if we dig deeper we would realize that change (as they call It) is not the spice of life, it’s actually (as I call it) the salt of life. Yes, it does sound funny “it’s not food” you’d say. Change is the salt, it adds flavor to that boring life which you are sick of living every day. As without salt food is not worth consuming, the same goes with change. Without change life would be not worth living. As much as we loathe good things changing it is actually good that it changes. Imagine what would happen to good things if it did not change, the feeling it gave would not give us that cheer it used to. That is because the repetition of anything everyday becomes humdrum. And imagine bad things never changing into good ones (Ah! That feeling is miserable).

                This little magician is not liked by many but it is needed all the time though its need is not realised until it steps forward. So whenever this little magician steps forth don’t be afraid of its unpredictable magic. Just wait till it happens. It would give you a new feeling every time. Be assured that this little magician whenever will brandish its wand will leave you gaping at its magic. You may not like it initially but it will gain your trust slowly and steadily. Change will never cease to show its magic. So why not to embrace it happily?

"Life belongs to the living, and he who lives must be prepared for changes."-Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe 

Having Parents, Still Orphans?

When I see today’s parents my mind is bombarded with several questions.  Where are those parents who were always there to watch you when you played, who solved your difficult math problems, who taught you dance steps for your annual dance competition? Where are those parents who reprimanded you when you told a lie or stole a fancy thing from your classmate? Those parents who read to you bedtime stories and kissed you goodnight are lost. I have seen those parents but now I can see them no more. It’s like they have hidden under the invisibility cloak

                In the era of instant connection, the connection between the parents and children is lost. In a bid to provide for all the material things to the children, parents work all day and all night; leaving their children with maids or babysitters who are illiterate and don’t care in the least about their child. Those maids or babysitters are people who don’t know a thing about the parents’ culture and about their systems and worst is that most of them are illiterate. Parents who consider those maids lower than themselves in intelligence, status and standards are basically giving them their children to raise. And here I am not talking about the poor or middle class people, here I am talking about those filthy rich people who can easily find time to be with their children and take proper care of them, but sadly they don’t.

Those parents who leave their children when they are sleeping at early dawn and arrive home when they are already put to bed; the only time they spend with them is when they get a holiday. How would those children ever know what parenting is and how parents are with their children? They wouldn’t because their parents are never around. Birth-Givers think that by providing lavish lifestyle and putting children in hi-fi schools they are showing to the world how much they love them. But they are children and not a person whom one can impress with fancy things. They crave for their parents attention and for their time, they want their parents to play with them and to listen to their crazy stories. But alas! They have to play with robotic machines instead.

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                             “Your children need your presence more than your presents”. -Anonymous

                The reason behind all the nasty habits and behaviors and silly tantrums, we see in those children when they grow up, is that their parents were never there to teach them what was right and what was wrong. Those parents were busy in their own world when their children started on to the wrong path. These kinds of parents are the one who spoil their own child by their own hands. Spoon feeding them at all times. Instead of punishing the child for getting low marks and hence not getting admission in the college , they would tell their sons and daughters ‘not to worry ,I will get you in’. If they are capable enough to give pocket money to their children then why are they not capable in keeping an eagle’s eye on where they spend that money? Isn’t that necessary? Getting things before the right time comes and getting their problem solved the wrong way, those children do suffer a lot when life tests them. We many times blame people for not handling the situation well, we often tag them as stubborn or selfish this is because they were not brought up properly by their parents, they are not to be blamed.

                Soon I realized that the increase in the number of drug and binge addiction in young adolescent children and teenage girls getting pregnant was the result of negligence on the part of their parents. If they take interest in what their children are doing and where they are going, will such a thing never happen. It’s time for the youth to know that giving one’s child a luxurious lifestyle is not enough. Parents should give their children, parents they actually need and not what they think their children need.

At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child's success is the positive involvement of parents. Jane D. Hull 

Get a life, dude!

Get a life, dude!

     Ever happened that the person you loved with all your heart, rejected you? Or didn’t have the same feelings as you did? Or did it ever happen that the person you had a loving relationship with, ended up loving somebody else? Probably yes, it did happen some or the other time in your life. It is definitely world collapsing for many people. Some people do forget the people they loved and move on from a heartbreaking rejection or a horrifying relationship. But for others it is just too hard a pill to swallow.

     Sometimes the person whom we love has no interest in us and tells us so but we still tend to hold on to that person and never move on, in a hope that they would return back. Each passing day we think about that beloved whom the cupid had stuck its arrow on. The rejection gets under our nerves, making us think that we are nothing but losers and no good could ever happen to us. The clouds of depression start to hover above us. Though going through this dark stage some of us still don’t give up. We try to do every possible thing to impress that special someone. In some cases many of us do even win the hearts of our beloved but in most cases the scenario is the opposite.

     A person rejected or dumped needs to understand that they need to stop obsessing about the one they love. To constantly follow that person’s every move on social networking sites or apps or to stalk them via phone or messages or worst even in person would only drag that person astray from us because it is obvious that they don’t need us. This in turn would only hurt us more.

     The best way to get over that feeling of rejection is to look forward in the future and give our life another chance. To stop thinking about what we lost and to start thinking about what we can perhaps gain. Life is short, too short for the gifts it has to offer to us. So why not look on the bright side and give life another chance. Why not to humour ourselves saying “go get a life dude”. There are people who make your life living hell and then there are people who make you think ‘are they angels?’. We all get both kinds of people at some or the other phase of our life. All we need to do is search those angels. They wouldn’t stop coming, then why should we stop looking for them?

     It’s always nice to go to people who are welcoming than to go to those who make faces when they see us. A person who can make us smile is better than a person who makes us cry. Only if we move on, can we find the person who really wants to be with us.

Why to wait for people who never wants us to be in their life? Is the feeling of getting continuously rejected or being hold up greater than the feeling of trying out new things, perhaps trying to know different people who are like us? So we should stop beating our self about being rejected or dumped. Instead get a life which is ever changing and ever challenging and never giving a shit about the dramas it gives us to deal with.

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined." -- Thoreau

Are we letting our religion down?

A couple of days back I was surfing the famous social networking site and I read a status on the rape case, scrolling down I read the comments in the curiosity of what people had to say about it . What I found was very appalling for it did not contain comments related to the status. What I found to my complete astonishment was that people were arguing in the name of religion. Each of them typed out some really obnoxious comments about each other's religion and how injustice was meted out on their part. The arguments became intense to such an extent that they started abusing the opposite religion. Now was that right? I asked myself.

Does abusing each other’s religion make ours more dignified? Possibilities are nil. But it most definitely shows that it has not preached us properly, because if it did, people wouldn't be abusing each other's religion. I am no expert in the field of God or God praising but I do know that no religion teaches us such things.

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Then why in the name of God are we fighting?  To protect one's religion is good, to favor what we have faith in, is also good, but to let it down in front of other religions? No, we possibly wouldn’t think of that. Astonishingly what we deny in our sub-conscious doesn't match our actions in the conscious state of mind. By speaking ill about other religions, we are letting our religion down. Almost all religions in the world emphasize the gains of forgiveness. A simple act of forgiveness can save a hundreds and billions of lives, which are taken in the name of religion. Yes, I do know it is very difficult to forgive somebody who has spoken ill about your faith, your God. But then again doesn't young India like challenges? (Don’t believe me? go watch Roadies audition). Why not to take it as a challenge? If we, the youth in television interviews and on many such occasions say that if given a chance we would change the world, then I say we have the chance Right Now!

My viewpoint doesn't support or oppose any religion or its followers but I, in my ability am trying to bring change to the stagnant mindsets of people. Gone are the days where an eye for an eye was justice. Then why the system still remains in our minds in some or the other way? If we for a second, for a minute do come out of the old mindset and see all religions in a respectable light, then we would surely be a stronger, a better, a united youth.

P.S: I do not intend to ridicule any belief or system related to religion. The above is my personal viewpoint. Any differing viewpoint is always welcomed in the comments section.