Tangle Resolved

        You are in a relation with the person you love the most. Things are good and rosy in the beginning but are you finding hard to be in the relation now? Has your relation turned sour with time? Do you think the fire in your relation has extinguished? Then you need to focus on small things. The below listed are some of the small errors committed by many people which mess up their relations.Don't let your relation die on these simple errs instead work on them and bring back the blossom in your dying relation.

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Expectations:

     Most people in a relation do expect a lot of things from their partner. When those expectations do not get fulfilled people start to feel they are with the wrong person. This messes up most of the relations. You should expect reasonable things from your partner and not unreasonable ones. Give your partner some space of his own. Let your partner know what you need only then can the person start to fulfill your expectations. And even after telling, this does not happen don’t consider your partner unfit. Give it some time, its new for that person also. Expect as minimal as you can, you will realize you are happier that way.

Space:

    Some people become stalker when they get into a relation. Following every move your partner makes, where that person goes and whom he meets, who calls him and whom he calls are all classic features of a stalker partner. Badgering your partner for every detail and calling him at all times can get you under the person’s nerves. So stop the stalker within yourself and give your partner some space. Let him tell you what’s going on. Some times it’s better to wait for your partner to tell stuff to you, instead of you asking all the time.

Trust:

    Keep trust on your partner. I know it sounds cliché but trust is one of the main factors of a healthy relation. Keep telling your partner that you trust him. Especially when you know he is lying. This will make him feel guilty within and eventually would bring himself to tell u the truth. (Trust me, this technique works). It will also prevent him from telling any lies to you in future. You should also believe your partner when he tells you certain things, questioning always is not a right thing to do. This will make your partner also understand that you do believe and trust him, which will definitely bring a smile to his face.

Listening:

    Be a better listener, than a better talker. I do feel that most relations get tangled up due to the lack of listening abilities. Listen to your partner when he or she speaks something important, let him finish than express your opinions. Nobody likes to get interrupted, so why to do that. Listen to any explanations given by your partner in case he has done a thing which has disappointed you. There will be a reason behind that action. Hear it out first and then make a decision.

Discuss:

    Discussion is a main factor of any relation. Don’t do a thing or make a decision and then discuss with your partner. Instead do the opposite. Discuss all the matters concerning you with your partner. What he thinks about it, is also important. Not discussing things with your partner will make him feel underestimated and hence this will start the problems.

Let Go and Say Sorry:

    You fought with your beloved on a small thing and you both are upset and angry about it. “I will not say sorry” this is what you tell yourself. There is a possibility that your partner is also thinking the same. What will happen if you both let your egos come in between, whenever you fight? You won’t be happy for a long time. Letting go and saying sorry is one of the things you should never forget when in a relation. A simple sorry won’t make you small it will make miracles happen. So next time you fight with your partner take a minute to yourself and then tell him “It’s ok, sh*t happens”.

I Love You! :

    Do tell your partner how much you love him. Never think one time is enough. To know at regular times that your partner loves you is the most heartwarming feeling. Most people don’t do this once their relation has reached a certain level. This is the reason that spark in the relation disappears. Show your love not only through words but by actions also.

        Relations are something which doesn’t happen every day and when they do, we should preserve them for times to come. Don’t let go of that special someone who has entered in your life just because of a few errors made here there. Relations that once break can never be mended. So why let it break ?

"The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what it was, nor forward to what it might be, but living in the present and accepting it as it is now".
Anne Morrow Lindbergh 

Get a life, dude!

Get a life, dude!

     Ever happened that the person you loved with all your heart, rejected you? Or didn’t have the same feelings as you did? Or did it ever happen that the person you had a loving relationship with, ended up loving somebody else? Probably yes, it did happen some or the other time in your life. It is definitely world collapsing for many people. Some people do forget the people they loved and move on from a heartbreaking rejection or a horrifying relationship. But for others it is just too hard a pill to swallow.

     Sometimes the person whom we love has no interest in us and tells us so but we still tend to hold on to that person and never move on, in a hope that they would return back. Each passing day we think about that beloved whom the cupid had stuck its arrow on. The rejection gets under our nerves, making us think that we are nothing but losers and no good could ever happen to us. The clouds of depression start to hover above us. Though going through this dark stage some of us still don’t give up. We try to do every possible thing to impress that special someone. In some cases many of us do even win the hearts of our beloved but in most cases the scenario is the opposite.

     A person rejected or dumped needs to understand that they need to stop obsessing about the one they love. To constantly follow that person’s every move on social networking sites or apps or to stalk them via phone or messages or worst even in person would only drag that person astray from us because it is obvious that they don’t need us. This in turn would only hurt us more.

     The best way to get over that feeling of rejection is to look forward in the future and give our life another chance. To stop thinking about what we lost and to start thinking about what we can perhaps gain. Life is short, too short for the gifts it has to offer to us. So why not look on the bright side and give life another chance. Why not to humour ourselves saying “go get a life dude”. There are people who make your life living hell and then there are people who make you think ‘are they angels?’. We all get both kinds of people at some or the other phase of our life. All we need to do is search those angels. They wouldn’t stop coming, then why should we stop looking for them?

     It’s always nice to go to people who are welcoming than to go to those who make faces when they see us. A person who can make us smile is better than a person who makes us cry. Only if we move on, can we find the person who really wants to be with us.

Why to wait for people who never wants us to be in their life? Is the feeling of getting continuously rejected or being hold up greater than the feeling of trying out new things, perhaps trying to know different people who are like us? So we should stop beating our self about being rejected or dumped. Instead get a life which is ever changing and ever challenging and never giving a shit about the dramas it gives us to deal with.

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined." -- Thoreau