When I see today’s parents my mind is bombarded with several questions.
Where are those parents who were always there to watch you when you
played, who solved your difficult math problems, who taught you dance steps for
your annual dance competition? Where are those parents who reprimanded you when
you told a lie or stole a fancy thing from your classmate? Those parents who
read to you bedtime stories and kissed you goodnight are lost. I have seen
those parents but now I can see them no more. It’s like they have hidden under
the invisibility cloak
In
the era of instant connection, the connection between the parents and children
is lost. In a bid to provide for all the material things to the children,
parents work all day and all night; leaving their children with maids or
babysitters who are illiterate and don’t care in the least about their child.
Those maids or babysitters are people who don’t know a thing about the parents’
culture and about their systems and worst is that most of them are illiterate.
Parents who consider those maids lower than themselves in intelligence, status
and standards are basically giving them their children to raise. And here I am
not talking about the poor or middle class people, here I am talking about
those filthy rich people who can easily find time to be with their children and
take proper care of them, but sadly they don’t.
Those parents
who leave their children when they are sleeping at early dawn and arrive home
when they are already put to bed; the only time they spend with them is when
they get a holiday. How would those children ever know what parenting is and
how parents are with their children? They wouldn’t because their parents are
never around. Birth-Givers think that by providing lavish lifestyle and putting
children in hi-fi schools they are showing to the world how much they love them.
But they are children and not a person whom one can impress with fancy things.
They crave for their parents attention and for their time, they want their
parents to play with them and to listen to their crazy stories. But alas! They
have to play with robotic machines instead.
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“Your children
need your presence more than your presents”. -Anonymous
The
reason behind all the nasty habits and behaviors and silly tantrums, we see in
those children when they grow up, is that their parents were never there to
teach them what was right and what was wrong. Those parents were busy in their
own world when their children started on to the wrong path. These kinds of
parents are the one who spoil their own child by their own hands. Spoon feeding
them at all times. Instead of punishing the child for getting low marks and
hence not getting admission in the college , they would tell their sons and
daughters ‘not to worry ,I will get you in’. If they are capable enough to give
pocket money to their children then why are they not capable in keeping an
eagle’s eye on where they spend that money? Isn’t that necessary? Getting
things before the right time comes and getting their problem solved the wrong way,
those children do suffer a lot when life tests them. We many times blame people
for not handling the situation well, we often tag them as stubborn or selfish
this is because they were not brought up properly by their parents, they are
not to be blamed.
Soon
I realized that the increase in the number of drug and binge addiction in young
adolescent children and teenage girls getting pregnant was the result of
negligence on the part of their parents. If they take interest in what their
children are doing and where they are going, will such a thing never happen.
It’s time for the youth to know that giving one’s child a luxurious lifestyle
is not enough. Parents should give their children, parents they actually need
and not what they think their children need.
At
the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child's success is the
positive involvement of parents. Jane D. Hull
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